Achieving balance over the holidays for counselors is an often overlooked critical component of our own self-care. So as the holidays approach, a special message goes out to all the hardworking counselors out there: You deserve a break. This isn't your typical self-care pep talk. I promise to offer you practical, albeit sometimes quirky, strategies to truly unwind and recharge. Remember, you're too important to lose to burnout, especially during this festive yet demanding time.
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Hide Your Phone, Seriously:
First up, hide your phone. Sounds like something your mom would say, right? But here’s the thing – your phone is a constant source of distraction, pulling you away from the moment and into a world of endless notifications. When you’re with family and friends, be with them fully. And when it’s bedtime, ditch the phone. Opt for a book instead. Protecting your sleep is paramount, as it’s the foundation of a healthy mind and body, especially as we try to achieve balance over the holidays. Our screen time often interferes with our ability to fall asleep at night not allowing our bodies to get the proper rest we as counselors so desperately need.
The Rescue Timer… Use it!
Setting a timer on your phone can be a lifesaver, quite literally. Think of it as your personal rescue text. Set it for a period that you’re comfortable with – say, 20 minutes – and when it goes off, take it as your cue to step away. This break allows you to catch your breath, practice a bit of mindfulness, or just enjoy a quiet moment. This isn’t about being rude; it’s about self-preservation. Remember, you’re not just a counselor during work hours; you carry that emotional weight around the clock.
Go Easy On the Alcohol
Now, let’s talk about alcohol. I know it can tend to flow freely during the holidays, but as a counselor, and speaking from my Al-Anon perspective, it’s crucial to approach it with mindfulness. Achieving balance over the holidays is about pacing yourself. Water down your drinks if needed. It can be easy to get caught up in the joy and fun of festivities and gatherings where you can find yourself having more than you realize. Unfortunately we all know that alcohol in general can not just negatively impact our sleep, but our overall health and well-being as well. Your sleep and overall well-being are far too important to be compromised by overindulgence.
The Power of ‘No'
Setting boundaries is essential especially as we are trying to achieve balance over the holidays. That means saying no, especially as we try to achieve balance over the holidays. It might be to an extra drink, another piece of pie, or even an uncomfortable conversation. We can feel that little pull or twinge of guilty when we say no, but in reality no can be so empowering to our mental well-being. We have no problem If you struggle to find the right words, seek inspiration from resources like Melanie O'Reilly Rogers on Instagram (@mostlyundercontrol), who advocates for self-care, especially for modern moms. Her insights can empower you to take the space you need, without feeling guilty.
Redefine Family Dynamics
Families and holidays can be a source of joy or stress, but it doesn't always have to be that way. We can get caught up in the complexities of family dynamics and feel trapped or obligated. Jimmy on Relationships (@jimmy_on_relationships) is another Instagram resource that helps put words to complex family dynamics. Use these insights to understand and, if necessary, redefine your role in family gatherings. Whether it’s helping with dishes or taking a moment for yourself, you have the right to choose how you engage. Focus on what brings you joy and peace and less on fear surrounding perceived obligations.
As we wrap up and we enter the holiday season, remember, counselors, you are the emotional sponges in every room you enter. Your job demands empathy at a level few can understand, making self-care not just a luxury, but a necessity. So, take these tips to heart, even the simple act of hiding your phone. Care for yourself as diligently as you care for others. You are too vital to lose to the stress and burnout that the holidays can bring. Wishing you and yours a very happy holiday season!
Blog post by Kate Walker Ph.D. LPC/LMFT Supervisor in Texas
